By Salma Awwad
Building better relationships and connecting to people translates into increased power and influence.
Your ability to connect to people and build real rapport can foster success in both your business and personal life.
Below are 5 strategies from 2b Limitless’ Empowerment Coach, Adam Zargar, designed to help you build better relationships and gain people’s trust, which in turn will translate to increased power and influence:
1- Be proactive and care: It's easy to help your colleague or manager when you're asked. This is what ‘most’ people do every day. However, very few offer to help before they have been asked, even though that’s when it makes the greatest impact.
People who build extraordinary relationships don’t bury their heads in their own work and problems. They pay close attention, see ahead intuitively when others are struggling and then offer help in a specific and caring way.
Example of a professional life action: Look around the office and offer specific help to someone on your team who looks like they have too much work to handle.
2- Do and/or say something nice: Don't just think about other people, act on those thoughts. One easy way is to give unexpected praise and another is to do something nice for them. Take a little time every day to do something nice for someone you know in the office or at home, not because you're expected to, but simply because you can. When you do, your relationships will improve dramatically.
Example of a professional life action: Give a lift to a colleague that does not drive and use that time to get to know them more.
3- Apologise when you've done/said something wrong: Mistakes happen. But most people in an organisation apologise only when their actions are called into question. Why not apologise beforehand as a graceful gesture of goodwill?
Taking ownership, accountability and responsibility for your mistakes shows courage and humility. In the long term this is guaranteed to develop trust and strong ties.
Example of a professional life action: “I apologise for not spotting a few mistakes in the presentation. I’ll be sure to dedicate more time to revising it before we share it with our distributors.”
4- Deposit more than you withdraw: Don’t approach relationships only thinking of what you will get out of them. Instead, take your time to assess what you can give back in order to establish a real connection and a lasting rapport. Taking your time to build a bond will render greater benefit in the future.
Example of a professional life action: “I can help promote your service on our twitter as we have a large audience who can benefit from it.”
5- See the good in everyone: It is important to see the positive intentions behind the actions of others no matter how hard it is to do so at times. If a person in a team makes a mistake take a step to understand how and why this happened and allow for it to be rectified before pointing the blame.
By delegating and trusting others you will build strong, creative and long lasting relationships. A team that is socially strong and trusts one another will always work better, especially under stressful situations.
Example of a professional life action: Ask, “What support can I give you so that these mistakes don’t happen next time?”